Friday, October 1, 2010

the Modern bedroom

Those of you who know me know exactly what kind of mom I am.  And those of you who don't, let me tell you.  Okay, maybe just one little piece.  My whole parenting philosophy discussion is too daunting a topic to tackle at this time of night.  So today we'll start with my thoughts on co-sleeping.

It all started when Zhaina was a newborn and I realized how much easier it was to have a nursing baby sleeping IN my bed with me instead of her baby crib just 2 feet from my own bed.  I mean, what is the point of getting out of bed 3-4 times a night to pick up the baby to bring her in bed to nurse only to get up to put her back in her little crib one to two boobs later.

And as the years went by it just worked out for us for Zhaina to stay in my bed.  I mean there was a point after I weaned her where I thought that she should learn to sleep in her own bed.  I mean, I no longer needed her in my bed with me.  But after a year of the back and forth of her in and out and back into my bed I decided that I was happier with her falling asleep and staying asleep with me.

After our recent move I opted not even to put a bed into Zhaina's room at all.  You see, up until now she's had a crib, and then a toddler bed at least as an option.  But this time around I thought to myself, what for?  Lets just use her room as a play room, and without a bed there's much more space for that.  Meanwhile, I had sold my old bed before the move (along with a ton of other old furniture) and used the money to buy a new mattress and custom built platform bed from a local carpenter (who was totally hot by the way). 

I thought we deserved something good.

So tonight as I was putting Zhaina to sleep in "my" bed I said to her, "when do you think you're gonna wanna sleep in your own bed?" and she said,

"Maybe when I get braver.  Like when I'm 15 or 17 or 18 or 19."

And that's just fine with me.  Cause I'm gonna have to get braver first too.